✨ When your goals feel forced (try this instead)


Hey Reader,

It was December 31st and I was staring at a blank Google Doc titled “2026 Vision."

I had lit the candle. I had made the coffee. I had opened the beautiful notion template an entrepreneurial friend had sent me with prompts like “What are your top 3 business goals?” and “Where do you want to be in 12 months?”

And still–nada. I had waiting until the very last minute.

It wasn’t burnout. It wasn’t laziness.

It was something quieter when I paused and really listened: resistance.

The kind that whispered, “I don’t want to force it.”

After a year of deep shifts in my identity, my relationships, and the way I move through the world (you too? man 20205 was most definitely the year of the snake. So. Much. Shedding. That sitting down to “strategize my goals” felt… hollow.

I didn’t want a list of shoulds or numbers. I didn’t want to chase more.

I wanted and needed to feel guided again.

The Messy → Magical Shift

So I closed the doc.

Instead, I wrote one question at the top of my journal:

“What is life inviting me into this year?”

What came through wasn’t rigid, bullet-pointed, or packed with metrics. It was softer. More alive. And it rang truer than anything I’d tried to plan:

  • “To trust the pause more than the plan.”
  • “To create from devotion, not demand.”
  • “To show up even when I don’t feel ready.”

These weren’t goals in the traditional sense.

They were soul intentions–invitations to live from the inside out.

These weren’t traditional goals.
They were soul intentions–invitations to live from the inside out.

And from that space, a few more “practical” ideas began to surface.
Not forced. Not flashy. Not driven by data, but rooted in resonance, not performance.

✨ 3 Soulful Goal-Setting Shifts for 2026

  1. Swap “What do I want?” for “What’s ready to emerge?”
    Instead of chasing outcomes, get curious: What themes keep showing up? What feels quietly sacred, even if it scares you? Let life speak.
  2. Let feelings lead before action steps
    Before crafting the to-dos, name the feelings you want to cultivate — peace, vitality, devotion, spaciousness. Make those the filter for your plans.
  3. Co-create with the divine, don’t just hustle solo
    Set your intention. Take the next aligned step. And then, practice trust. Spiritual goal-setting is a dance between vision and surrender.

A Spark of Inspiration:

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be."
— Lao Tzu

You’re not behind if you don’t have your year mapped out with strict goals and tidy timelines. In fact, I’d gently argue the opposite.

When we rush to define every milestone, we often miss the deeper invitation unfolding beneath the surface.

You’re not late.
You’re listening.

And that listening–to your body, your intuition, the quiet nudges from the universe–that’s what moves you forward in alignment, not urgency.

💬 Your Turn (CTA)
What is life inviting you into this year?
What quiet truth is ready to be honored?

And what would the future you thank you for? I’d truly love to hear, my friend.

Grateful for you.

Thank you for being here!

I want you to know I'm proud of you for continuing to learn, and I believe you have what it takes to make your entrepreneurial dreams a reality.

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